Who is Your Child's Hero?

When I grew up it was easy. We knew that inworld-wide basis.
the western movie the cowboy with the whitePerhaps our attitudes towards authority have
hat was the "good guy" and the one with thechanged the possibilities for heroism. What used
black hat was "the bad guy". We looked up toto be unquestionable respect towards teachers,
figures like Ann Frank or Jack and Bobbypolice and community leaders, has, in many cases,
Kennedy who died for their beliefs. We heardbeen replaced with disgust and filing of complaints
stories of valour from our parents and theirof unprofessional conduct. It is true that "one bad
friends who had sacrificed through the World War.apple can spoil the bunch" and plant a seed of
We watched Terry Fox run rather than rest sodoubt about the others.
that the next generation might not have to sufferI find it extremely sad when I ask my clients who
as he did.they have as heroes and am told "I don't have
Yes, it was easy to identify the heroes in society.any". Often the ones who previously held those
Sometimes we were inspired by individuals whopositions fall from grace due to personal or
did what we could not or would not do - like thebusiness failings. Those who admired them
first visitors on the moon or the recipients oftherefore become disappointed and disillusioned to
Nobel Peace Prizes or architects of the site ofthe point that they give up trusting that others
various Expo celebrations.are genuine or will be able to maintain hero status
At other times, we were inspired by pioneers ofover a lifetime.
the path which we chose for our own lives. ManySometimes individuals are not classed as heroes
students, for example, decided to become schooluntil they die. I remember the polarization that the
teachers because they wanted to be just likeideas and programs of Tommy Douglas created
someone who had taught them. David Suzukiwhen he was alive. A few years ago, however,
encouraged us to respect and protect thehe was given the title "Greatest Canadian" for the
environment. How many guitars were purchasedvery things that caused the controversy.
by starry-eyed people who hoped to beI have decided that I don't want to be exactly like
"discovered" like the Beatles, Beach Boys or Elvisanyone else. Instead, I would like to incorporate
had been?the traits of individuals into my own life. I wish
And people didn't have to be famous to bethat I had the voice of Barbara Streisand, the
examples for us. There were the farmers whointelligence of Bill Gates and the wisdom of Jesus.
demonstrated faith by planting seed in the springOkay, that's not going to happen. But perhaps I
with the hope that it would produce a crop forcould use examples such as the compassion of
the fall. There were the volunteer firefighters andMother Theresa, the long-suffering of Nelson
police officers who risked their lives to protectMandella, the peaceful methods of Ghandi, the
our community. Doctors made house calls late atoratorical skills Martin Luther King Junior and the
night when their own health was in jeopardylaughter of my two-year-old granddaughter to
because of fatigue. There were people who leftshape my own life.
our little town and made it "big" in the city. AndThis week, I challenge you to list the people who
those who stayed who taught us about family,have been heroes for you. Why and how did
work and personal values.they inspire you? Better yet, think about the
Maybe part of the reason that we could honourthings that you might do which may result
heroes was that we didn't know everything aboutsomeday in someone saying to you "You are my
the individuals we respected. There washero".
something to be said about simplicity. Today, it isEveryone needs a hero and it seems that there
only a matter of minutes until technologyaren't as many around as their used to be. Why
broadcasts the sins or failings of people on anot be one?